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The same site that had the love languages thing also had an apology language. It felt a lot like I was checking "make restitution" sort of statements, but apparently I wasn't:
9 Expressing Regret
11 Accepting Responsibility
0 Making Restitution
0 Genuinely Repenting
0 Requesting Apology
Here's the blurb for Accepting Responsibility:
You have chosen Accepting Responsibility as your primary Apology Language. What you are looking for in an apology is maturity. You most want to hear the offending party say, I was wrong and I take responsibility for my actions.
Of course, that can be a problem if the party that I found hurtful disagrees that they were wrong, or if the idea that they did something wrong is too firmly linked with the idea that doing something wrong that hurts someone makes them a bad person (a really common link - hell, even I do it). And admittedly, the words "I was wrong" don't actually matter that much. But I hate feeling like that if I'm hurt by something, then that's all my fault - or sometimes, that fault has to come into it at all.
Here's the website these things came from:
http://www.5lovelanguages.com/assessments/love/
I remember this book being in the Inspirational section when I worked at Bunns and Noodle so many years ago. I don't know if the books have any religious overtones - haven't read them. But the assessments provide some interesting thinky things.
9 Expressing Regret
11 Accepting Responsibility
0 Making Restitution
0 Genuinely Repenting
0 Requesting Apology
Here's the blurb for Accepting Responsibility:
You have chosen Accepting Responsibility as your primary Apology Language. What you are looking for in an apology is maturity. You most want to hear the offending party say, I was wrong and I take responsibility for my actions.
Of course, that can be a problem if the party that I found hurtful disagrees that they were wrong, or if the idea that they did something wrong is too firmly linked with the idea that doing something wrong that hurts someone makes them a bad person (a really common link - hell, even I do it). And admittedly, the words "I was wrong" don't actually matter that much. But I hate feeling like that if I'm hurt by something, then that's all my fault - or sometimes, that fault has to come into it at all.
Here's the website these things came from:
http://www.5lovelanguages.com/assessments/love/
I remember this book being in the Inspirational section when I worked at Bunns and Noodle so many years ago. I don't know if the books have any religious overtones - haven't read them. But the assessments provide some interesting thinky things.
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